How to WIN an argument Gracefully


As young humans, we are often advised how to behave and what to wear; however, I noticed that they're aren't enough lessons on how to assert ourselves politely during an uncomfortable confrontation. 

Unfortunately, this led me into countless situations where I would get emotionally overwhelmed and act out by yelling or insulting the person confronting me. 

 If I felt I was getting treated in a certain way, I wouldn't know how to address that problem or criticism calmly.

I finally realized that when I would behave this way, my point and reason would be lost in the heat of the moment.

 After years of not getting the results of my intentions met, I humbled myself and accepted that my emotions don't excuse poor behavioral reactions.

 I learned throughout the years that the only way to make the world a better place is to teach people how to treat others by modeling healthier behavior.  

It's impossible to offer our perspectives when we are aggressive towards our offenders.

Confrontation can often cause people to close up. When we insult somebody without trying to see where they are coming from. They'll either get mad or clam up and be reluctant to share their emotions. 

In heated moments, we should try to use opposition as an opportunity to build more empathy, trust, and understanding.

It takes awareness to de-escalate a situation, especially when feelings are hurt.

Have you ever gotten upset with somebody and wondered how you could get back at them? 

To be transparent, I've had many moments like that and recently noticed that wanting Revenge can ruin our relationships and our reputation, and there's not a lot of good that comes out of it. 

We end up Burning Bridges and hurting people we care about when we have vengeful thoughts and actions. 

It's better to abstain from having an immediate reaction.

With that being said, I found it necessary to do some personal research on de-escalation techniques, and during that time, I thought it would be great to share it with you all.

 Here are four steps to de-escalating a disagreement.

 Step 1

Try to find compassion for the other person's perspective. 

Seeing the other person's perspective can be super challenging, especially if you feel triggered.

 The goal here is to ask yourself questions.

Questions can help us break down and process a situation before we commit to walking a  destructive path.

 But unfortunately, we often find ourselves on a dangerous path when we're not thinking about the consequences of our actions.

Next time,

let's ask ourselves what's going on and what the other person perceives. How we can appreciate the other person's unique perspective. 

Let's understand the differences; we can start there and give that attention.

 Step 2 

Ask open-ended questions instead of just asking what they're mad about. Try asking why they're upset and how we can improve it.

 Let's focus on Solutions. 

Step 3

 Listen to understand, not respond. 

I know it sounds like common sense to have this quality. 

Still, even I have a past of being guilty of this habit. 

If you have a habit of interrupting people when you get excited or when you feel the need to come up with a response to what they're saying, This advice is for you. 

I recommend trying to cut down on that habit because the people we're going to build the best relationships with are the people that feel heard and understood by us. 

The only way to do that is by lending an open ear when somebody's upset.

 It might be our instinct to get back at them and make matters hotter, but what we can do for that other person is find out why they're upset.

 Why are they so triggered, and what can we do about it?

 How can we make it better?

 Honestly, nobody likes being upset, and frustration is a very frustrating emotion, so let's try to be there hand in hand with each other walking each other home instead of trying to break each other's egos down.

 

Step 4, 

Be respectful because your responses matter even when we get offended by confrontation.

 Avoid responding with a dismissive or condescending tone because the other person's emotions, feelings, and perceptions are valid to them.

It's better to show growth with the people we care about instead of spending time replacing relationships. 

There are some positives to confrontation. 

Confrontation can help us grow and evolve.

 It can help reveal aspects of ourselves we could strengthen. 


 I hope these four steps help you in your relationships because 

it is giving me more peace to see the other options I have when reacting

to these things. 

Our goal as thought leaders is to model peace in our community. 

These four steps are just the beginning.

 If you found these tips helpful and want to make up with your loved ones, I challenge you to tag them in this post and share it with them. 

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